Couples relate to each other very differently. With some couples, it seems like arguments and disagreements are constant and full of emotion. With others, it seems like they never disagree or argue, and it’s only minor if they do. It would be a shock to their friends and family to see them get into a heated disagreement.
Many people naturally assume that couples who argue more often are also more likely to get divorced. They simply seem unhappy with their relationships. The arguments make it seem like the marriage just isn’t working. But is this true?
Changes in arguments
The big thing to look for is if the style of arguing changes in a substantial way. If it is just how the couple has always interacted, it may not be a predictor of divorce.
But if the couple was previously happy and now seems to get into arguments over every little thing, that could mean divorce is more likely. In some cases, couples are fundamentally unhappy together, so they will start to nitpick and turn every little disagreement into a major argument. This could mean that the relationship is unraveling and all the arguments are just a result of their growing unhappiness.
But if a couple previously argued a lot and stops doing so, that could also indicate that they’re going to get divorced. What sometimes happens is that one spouse will mentally decide that they are going to end the marriage, even if they haven’t filed the divorce petition yet. But once they’ve made that decision, they don’t see any reason to continue engaging in these constant arguments.
Either way, divorce can be complicated. Couples need to know what rights they have in terms of child custody, property division and more.