Most divorced or separated parents manage the exchange of their children without needing to worry about safety. Yet, for some parents, safety is a real concern due to the volatile nature of their relationship with their ex-spouse or partner.
A violent or abusive co-parent can turn what should be a straightforward occasion into a moment of potential danger. The following options are worth considering if this is the case.
Use the local police department’s safe exchange area
Many police departments and sheriff’s offices have designated safe exchange zones. These usually have video cameras and good lighting to facilitate the safer exchange of children between parents, as well as the exchange of goods bought on the internet. Nevertheless, history has shown that even these locations may not provide enough protection in some cases.
Have someone else accompany you
Attending the handover with your parent in the passenger seat might dissuade your ex from behaving poorly toward you. Alternatively, you could demand that they send the children with their parent or another family member so that you never need to come face to face with them directly.
Use a third-party professional for the exchange
There are parties that specialize in coordinating and supervising custody exchanges to take the stress and danger out of these moments for children and parents alike.
Understanding how to request that a court put some rules in place around your chidl custody exchanges is wise if you anticipate or are having issues.